I recommend the following resources for concerns related to eating:
1. Intuitive Eating, by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch.
We’ve all get caught in the cycle in one way or another. For some of us it’s food – angry with ourselves for overeating, for our lack of willpower, for failing at yet another diet that was supposed to be the last one. But the problem is not you, it’s that dieting, with its emphasis on rules and regulations, has stopped you from listening to your body.
Written by two prominent nutritionists, Intuitive Eating focuses on nurturing your body rather than starving it, encourages natural weight loss, and helps you find the weight you were meant to be.
*How to reject diet mentality
*How our three Eating Personalities define our eating difficulties
*How to feel your feelings without using food
*How to honor hunger and feel fullness
*How to follow the ten principles of Intuitive Eating, step-by-step
*How to achieve a new and safe relationship with food and, ultimately, your body
With much more compassionate, thoughtful advice on satisfying, healthy living, this newly revised edition also includes a chapter on how the Intuitive Eating philosophy can be a safe and effective model on the path to recovery from an eating disorder.
The latest edition has a chapter on kids and teens (chapter 15) which is particularly useful. You’ll find more intuitve eating resources here.
2. Take the Fight Out of Food, by Donna Fish.
All foods are good. That is the message of this commonsense book that helps parents speak to their kids about food and nutrition. It is a message that is long overdue, especially when you consider that 81 percent of ten-year-olds are afraid of being fat — half are already dieting — and twelve million American children are obese. There is a disease gripping our nation’s children and it strikes early. Take the Fight Out of Food offers a cure.
This practical guide is filled with hands-on tools and in-depth advice for putting a stop to unhealthy eating habits before they begin. In Take the Fight Out of Food parents will learn how to:
• Understand their own “food legacy” and how it affects their children
• Keep their children connected to food in a positive way
• Talk to their kids about food and nutrition
• Recognize and deal with the six types of eaters – including the Picky Eater, the Grazer, and the Beige Food Eater.
With guidance, inspiration, and encouragement, this invaluable book helps parents to teach their children to eat for life in a positive and healthy family environment.
More of Donna Fish’s materials are available here.
3. How to Get Your Kid To Eat…But Not Too Much, by Ellyn Satter.
Answering a multitude of questions—such as What should a parent do with a child who wants to snack continuously? How should parents deal with a young teen who has declared herself a vegetarian and refuses to eat any type of meat? Or What can parents do with a child who claims he doesn’t like what’s been prepared, only to turn around and eat it at his friend’s house?—this guide explores the relationship between parents, children, and food in a warm, friendly, and supportive way.
“Feeding is a metaphor for the parent/child relationship overall,” says Ellyn Satter, author of How to Get Your Kid to Eat … But Not Too Much. Satter stresses her “Golden Rule” of parenting: parents are responsible for what is presented to eat and the manner in which it is presented. Children are responsible for how much or even whether they eat. Early chapters describe basic feeding principals. Satter then stresses ways to develop and maintain normal eating patterns from birth through adolescence, and provides solid information (and information on “solids”) to both empower and relieve all parents worried about how their child eats. Later sections focus on feeding problems, obesity, special needs children, and eating disorders. How to Get Your Kid to Eat … But Not Too Much may be the most sensible and accessible book on childhood feeding on the market.
More from Ellyn Satter here.
4. Kids, Carrots, and Candy, by Jane Hirschmann & Lela Zaphiropoulous.
In this parent-child guide to eating behaviors (from infancy through adolescence) the authors show parents how to put an end to the eating battles which confront them on a daily basis. This book will help parent and child put food back into its rightful place. Previously published as Are You Hungry? and Preventing Childhood Eating Problems (featured in McCalls, Parenting Magazine, Sesame Street Magazine, Newsweek, New York Times, CNN, The Oprah Show, and many other T.V. and radio shows), Kids, Carrots, and Candy has a new Introduction that addresses society’s current obsession with the “obesity crisis,” as well as updated language throughout the book.
This insightful book offers a common-sense, relaxed approach to healthy eating based on the method of self-demand feeding. Contrary to the belief that children must be forced to eat what’s good for them, to clean their plates, and to avoid all sweets, Kids, Carrots, and Candy presents evidence that children will naturally self-regulate their eating if rigid rules are not imposed upon them. By trusting natural hunger cycles and letting children choose when, what, and how much they eat, food becomes demystified, and a lifetime of fears, fights, and anxieties around food, weight, and diet are eliminated.
5. The Mommy Manual Series, by Laura Cipullo.
The Mommy Manual offers an encouraging dose of inspiration and practical know-how that will help you succeed as a mom. Inside, you’ll discover ten essential keys to raising happy, confident kids. Why it’s directed at moms and not dads or both, I’m not sure, but it’s worth the read nonetheless.
Author Barbara Curtis, a mother of twelve, draws on decades of parenting experience to teach you how to:
* recognize your children’s potential as well as their unique, God-given gifts
* create an inviting, loving environment in your home with traditions and rituals
* teach teamwork, drive, and self-discipline
* motivate your children to grow in respect, generosity, thankfulness, and other godly traits – find joy and contentment in your everyday routine
The Mommy Manual delivers real-life stories and proven, power-packed advice. Whether you have a single tiny tot or a growing multitude, you’ll discover how to nourish joyfulness, graciousness, and confidence in your family.
Her website can be accessed here.
For the child:
6. My Big Fat Secret: How Jenna Takes Control of Her Emotions and Eating,by Lynn Schecter.
Jenna is having a tough time in middle school. She just turned 12, she hates gym, and she’s overweight. Jenna has good friends and cool hobbies, but when some of her classmates make fun of her, she just feels so bad! And to make things worse, when Jenna feels sad or mad or stressed out, she starts to eat and she just can’t stop!
Through Jenna’s story, kids will learn how to say goodbye to emotional eating and hello to a healthy lifestyle. They’ll see how to create an action plan to stop overeating before it starts, identify emotional triggers that push them to food, and get healthier by taking better care of their bodies and minds.